Whether your current relationship turn in to a long distance relationship for some reasons or you meet someone online who lives thousands of miles away from you; The important questions to ask yourself from day one is; does it worth it?.
Can you make this work. The answers to this questions entirely depends on you and your partner, there are few key issues you should put into consideration when you happen to see yourself in this kind of situation.
How do you know if a long distance relationship is serious?
There are some many factors attached to knowing whether or you not your long-distance relationship is working; among those factors are boundaries, trust and invasion of space, these are the common factors why most long distance relationship fails.
Another way to know if your long distance relationship is serious or not is staying away for too long. relationships experts says at least every 3 months you should be seeing each other; except if there certain circumstance that blocks that; staying too long can fade away the trust and love in general, you might begin to forget why you love your partner.
Should you talk every day in a long distance relationship?
People believe that when you are in a long distance relationship you and your partner needs to talk every day to build the trust.
However according to dating experts talking every day is not really necessary and can cause more harm that good; talking everyday can lead to uninteresting conversation and nothing useful to talk about; which can lead to unnecessary argument and quarrels.
Experts say if you do take some days off you will have more interesting conversation and emotional connection, which is need to keep the love alive. Below are some of the key important issues to look out for when you are in a long distance relationship in other to be sure it can work:
Take Note of your partner`s commitment
One the reasons to know whether or not your long distance relationship is working is; If your partner struggles to keep commitments, big or small promises, like calling you back at a specified hour that he promised.
If you noticed some sort of slackness in your partners behavior, know that its not working, people in a distance relationship needs to create a specific time to communicate, no matter how busy or rough things seems.
However, if he has earned your trust through keeping commitments, chances are more likely your long-distance relationship will work. Honestly these types of relationships needs commitment and communication is the key.
If your communication to this point has been good, open, clear, and honest, chances are that the relationship is working and will last. Long distance is all about love and communication, since you don’t get to see your partner in person every day; you need to be clear and open with each other.
Look for qualities in your partner
Distance relationships can sometimes be difficult; to keep putting in maximum effort for the long time if your partner is not fully committed. If your partner has the types of qualities you are looking for, it’s much easier to maintain commitment.
Nobody is perfect keep that in your mind, but there are people that are closer to “perfect for you” than others. No matter how far away they are from you; they will never cheat on you; they don`t lie; and they will always be very open and clear to you about their daily life routine.
These types of people are like angels; if you partner has these qualities, then you are really lucky.
So look for the honesty, loyalty and values; you don`t want to be in a relationship with someone who has no morals; and lying is like breathing air for him.
Sometimes people change, you may be in a relationship with someone who behaves like angel at first; but when far away from you can turn into a devil and develop bad attitudes.
But what is important is Love; if you someone truly loves you no amount of pressure will ever make that person change his stand on you.
sometime you may see slackness in some of these qualities, that doesn’t necessarily make your partner a bad person, just be aware that he is not likely to change and it’s either something you will have to deal with. If not Just be sure to be honest with yourself how you really feel about it and then take action accordingly.
Relationship success depends on you and your partner
If you are both dedicated and committed to do what it takes to make it work; nothing can stop you from succeeding and having a whole, complete, and fulfilling long-distance relationship.
It is best idea to introduce your friends, colleagues or whoever your constant companions are to your partner. Allow your partner to get to know your closed friends. However, you should be open to his assumptions or his opinions about your friends.
But if ever there is someone among your friends your partner doesn’t like or trust, then you have to limit your time with that someone for the shake of your relationship. This way you can ease your partner’s worries, doubts and whatever negative emotions he gets especially when you go out.
Why do most long distance relationships fail?
Several research have shown that Long distance relationship fails mainly because it lacks key things that drives the relationship forward, things like commitment, interest.
Suspicious behaviors like hiding issues away from your partner; lack of flirt to keep things interesting, lack of ability to resolve arguments and fights, stressing about miles can also cause someone to leave, especially when there is no time limit of how long the distance will remain.
Making assumptions about your partner for not been able to communicate with you; at times this is due to something out of control.
How do I stop worrying in a long distance relationship?
If you only the read the negative part of long distance relationship, you will believe there is nothing good about it; the bottom line is people treat long distance relationship as it is not a normal thing; they tend think; it will hurt them; their partner will cheat on them etc.
But there some many people who are able to make it work. In fact researches have shown the risk of been cheated on is only associated with quality of your relationship but not particularly a long distance relationship. There are countless relationship that has no distance but yet still the partners cheats on one another.
I personally believe the reason why such relationship only fails because people don`t believe it will work. This could be maybe you only heard the negative aspect of it instead of the positive.
Even though you may heard 82% of them fails but there are still some that worked out well, so many positive things to look out for; so keep your head up and believe in yourself, have trust in your partner there is chance yours will work.
What to do when you feel like your long distance relationship is falling apart
Long distance relationships can be challenging to fix; if things are falling apart; at times online communication may not be the best way to express yourself and convey your feelings as in person.
But that does not mean you cannot safe your relationship. If you see that things are falling apart, do try to meet your partner in person that is the most effective way to safe it.
You can also try to revive the good things your partner likes, send him something special and memorable to show him you are willing wait.
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